Date a girl who reads

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What I am reading right now (The Shadow of the Wind)-all kinds of incredible!
So I was reading my friend Kate’s blog when I came across this incredible post by Rosemarie Urquico about dating girls who love to read. As an unabashed reader since I was 4, this little post really tugged at my heart. I’ve been obsessed with books as long as I can remember! Instead of putting me in time-out or grounding me, my mom would punish me by taking away my favorite book. To see someone write with the same mentality as me, drawing attention to other girls just like me, makes me smile-especially the shout-outs to two of my favorite poets, Pablo Neruda and John Keats. Even now that I am living on the other side of the world, some of the things I miss the most are my books! If only you could see my room at home! You know someone is a true bibliophile and reader when she brings an entire suitcase of books with her to another country (I will NEVER give in to e-books! If it doesn’t smell like paper and stain my fingers with ink, it doesn’t count. Though I will admit e-books are better than no books.) Whenever I buy a purse, it must pass the fit-the-book test (Definitely a paperback but preferably a hardcover). I think every year people read less and less and it makes me so incredibly sad! And people who read only 2 bestsellers a year don’t count either-you gotta read more than The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo and Eat, Pray, Love people! In this world we must respect our readers, especially the girls; they are our future (coming from a women’s college graduate, this kind of talk should NOT sound surprising). So gentlemen remember beauty is fleeting, but the mind is forever! Date an interesting literate lady and not a boring unread biddy!

“Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Or over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”


My bookcase in Spain this year. This is round 2, round 1 went home at Christmas

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  1. (I will NEVER give in to e-books! If it doesn’t smell like paper and stain my fingers with ink, it doesn’t count. Though I will admit e-books are better than no books.) i love this word, girls…

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